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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • I feel you. My ex-fiancee broke up with me on Thanksgiving while we were driving home. it will sting, but you have to accept that it happened first before anything else. You can’t control others, so even though it might have come out of nowhere, you can’t blame yourself entirely.

    Consider and think critically about any reasons they told you to decide if it’s something you need change. Think about the relationship itself and if you were content. My ex broke up with me for being unable to constantly mask my autism, seemed to feel bad for it after realizing the same thing, and then truly ended the relationship after I forgot to clean a dish 2 months later. Like yea, I definitely need to be better about remembering to do dishes, but I will never apologize for being autistic. Could you believe that I wasn’t content in a relationship where my partner would get upset at me for reasons I don’t understand? By the time I moved out of the apartment in March, I was already done grieving. Imo, if someone you thought you could marry breaks up suddenly and with little reason, they were too disrespectful to deserve you.

    Finally, after the fallout, you need to rediscover who you are for yourself. You’ve likely been emotionally reliant on that person, which is ok, but now you need to sort out who you are after growing from that relationship. I’ve been going for long walks every day, listening to audiobooks. I’ve been reconnecting with college friends who I lost touch with during the relationship. I chose to treat myself with an expensive gadget. I’ve been leaning into my activism. You get to choose for you and yourself what to do with your free time, with no reason to coordinate with someone that may be uninterested.





  • It’s intimidating, but being united in a cause is a pretty powerful force. It brings focus to the energy everyone has and directs it collectively. I was extremely shy and not comfortable with confrontation or being approached at work. Over the course of 2.5 years of organizing and being outspoken, I still like my space but none of that is true about me now. I never knew how to just talk to people at work, but now I’ve gotten pretty good at talking to people I’ve never even met before and can get pretty comfortable with folks I’m closer to.

    Everything is a process. Having focus for the purposes of being together is a very strong social lubricant. From there you might find personalities you don’t like, but you’re much more likely to find some friends.