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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • I really use very few platforms. Was mainly Reddit, now mainly Kbin. No Facebook, no Twitter, no Instagram, too old for Snapchat.

    I stopped visiting Facebook several years ago. I think it was for two reasons:

    1. I decided it was unhealthy for my in real life relationships to see how people behaved on Facebook.
    2. When I noticed that Facebook was showing me way more “suggested” crap than stuff from my friends.

    I never used Twitter. It just wasn’t for me.

    Maybe too old and too much of a curmudgeon for Instagram and Snapchat.

    Leaving Reddit was going to be hard. I tried Mastodon but, like Twitter, that wasn’t what I was looking for.

    When I found kbin, I made the switch and that’s it. I have one sub I still check out on Reddit, but here if used to be daily, now it’s a few times a week. It’s continue to diminish I’m sure as the community on the deliverer grows.


  • an old irishman shuffles into a bar at sundown with his eyes low and his head down
    the bartender says “ay, billy! whats the matter. you seem troubled”
    billy responds with "you see this bar we’re standing in. I built it with me own hands! but they don’t call me the bar builder, no!

    and the bridge everyone uses to cross the river to get to the market, i built that that with me own hands too! but do the call me the bridge builder? no, they do not.

    and the wall that protects our city, i built that with me own hands too! and they don’t call me the wall builder neither.

    BUT YOU FUCK ONE GOAT!..



  • I think it’s generally best to just empathize and validate their feelings. My go to is “that sounds really frustrating” or just repeat back their feelings. I’d in their vent they say they are sad, repeat back “that seems like it would be sad”

    Depending on you’re relationship with them, I think you can first validate, but then ask “what are you going to do” or “how are you going to handle it”

    You can also ask “are you just wanting to vent or do you also want advice”

    But unsolicited advice is rarely appreciated. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and everyone things everyone else’s stinks.