I’m sorry that you had a bad experience with your psychologist.

If I can point out one thing that might help you is that these thoughts largely come from an evolutionary trait called Negative Bias

Negative Bias is the disproportionate focus on bad events and/or memories compared to good events.

It applies to a large range of memories and our ability to perceive danger. Evolutionary it makes sense because our embarrassing memories makes us afraid or unwilling to behave in a way that the social group doesn’t like.

You can imagine when humans lived in societies in small groups of 30 people, that disrespecting someone could get you kicked out of the group and potentially starve to death in the wild. So there is a very strong evolutionary pressure that made your brain evolve to avoid repeating bad scenarios

Your constant embarrassing, sad, or traumatic memories are your brain reminding you over and over not to be in that situation again.

Unfortunately your brain didn’t evolve to be happy. It evolved to survive.

All I wanted to explain is that these memories are not your fault. Don’t feel like you’re any different because you have bad memories constantly. Accept that your brain will do what it is programmed to do and learn how to work around those tendencies.

And I could recommend trying another psychologist. I’m also available to chat if you’d like. Cheers 🙂

That’s a great comment. I go though basically the same steps with my constant flow of embarrassing and/or sad memories

If they’re useful then maybe I should explore this thought for a little longer, or try to speak with someone

If I have nothing to gain from it and it’s just making me cringe or sad I try to do something else to distract myself

It’s important to not shut these memories down immediately. Some memories really need to be explored in order for you to properly leave them in the past. And you can bottle up a bunch of emotions if you refuse to think about thoughts that come to you constantly.

From time to time I feel like my dreams are a continuation of other dreams I’ve had in the past.

I can recall 2 or 3 different scenarios that somehow I keep dreaming about and it always feels like either a repeat or a continuation of the last time I dreamt about this scenario

The same characters show up and in the same environment etc

It’s quite cool. I always wake up and feel like “woah this would be an amazing movie” except the one where I’m lost in an underground circus and the magicians and lions are trying to kill me. I sometimes relive the story of dreams I had years ago. I only wish I could remember more about them.

I don’t know if there’s a memory space for dreams but at least it seems like it’s possible for the brain to fall into a similar state while sleeping and you feel like it was the same dream as before

An icon represents what the people think it represents.

An icon can also have different meanings to different people. It’s ok if you don’t like it. But I don’t think it’s fair to say that the majority of people that use or share Pepe are from one specific ideological group

Just wave with a brick in your hand the next time

hae nuces

They have a regular spicy ramen, which is more spicy than what most people can take, and then there’s 2x, double the amount of chilly from the regular one. And the 3x you can guess what it is.

I’ve had the 2x before and it’s uncomfortably hot but my criticism is that the overall taste of this brand of ramen is not that great.

CBAT - they will get horny, jerk off in sync to the rhythm then leave

Alien Hip Hop - they will be either extremely confused or will get inspired to leave and form a prog rock band immediately

The Woven Web - it’s such an incredibly sick song that they will have to mute their speakers and bop to it

It’s just a media game

Every time Russia says “there will be consequences” they’re just throwing threats around like a dog barking from the other side of a fence

All their cards are on the table. The only things they could pull off are drafting more people or going nuclear

They’re now scrambling to find soldiers from other nations because announcing another draft would obviously shake Putin’s control over Russia

I just wish Europe would stop playing this war like a political game. SEIZE RUSSIAN MONEY! What are you afraid of? Ruining relations with Russia? Fuck off! Ukraine won’t have people to fight forever

Israeli soldiers are not recruited from prisons like in Russia

I guess this is targeting landlords that just live off the rent income and/or own multiple houses

You could argue that Landlords who only live off rent money are contributing nothing to society while still having a considerable income.

In Amsterdam for example, if you have 1 property in the state you’re allowed to rent normally, but from the 2nd property on you can only make your house available for affordable rent programs (for refugees, low income families etc)

Which is cool cause it discourages people to buy multiple houses and live off rent

Great to know that you can recognize your imperfections. I’m sure you have a good character. And i’m glad you’re feeling better. Cheers!

I understand that you’re angry. Sure the initial comment was slightly snarky, and yes, a lot of frustration is caused by a large lack of willingness to address men’s issues.

But I’d just like you to find out what you want to achieve with your commentary.

If your objective was to raise an argument and change someone’s mind, then starting a conversation with

Stop pretending you know jack shit

And

STFU about your cope bullshit Will never convince anyone

If you just wanted to express your anger, then I think it’s unjustified to direct it so intensely to the initial comment. The intensity does not match the casual tone of the comment and it’s uncalled for.

Maybe you just wanted to spend some idle time by commenting on posts. Sure that’s fair, but considering the stress you put into this I’d say that’s probably a net loss for your mood

That’s not what’s happening here

Sorry if I misunderstood that. But your tone did not help with my understanding of your point

The problem is that they brought up men’s rights issues in the most passive aggressive snarky way

Sure I agree that the initial comment deserves some correction, but You will never get your point across by insulting someone. often to convince someone you should talk to them like they’re your friend. I know the insults might come more naturally than friendship, but respect is what effectively causes change.

I’m just suggesting you use your energy and patience more efficiently

I enjoyed this conversation, and hope you did too. Cheers

Hey, what’s up with the tone my guy? Message me if you need to talk fr

Regarding the subject at hand,

Evidently women still have many issues coming from male dominant culture formed before the industrial revolution, there has been good progress but there’s still a long path ahead.

Men have issues coming from cultural norms too. imo the biggest hindrance for men at the moment is not nearly enough people talk about men’s mental health.

MOST IMPORTANT NOTE IS:

Promoting solutions for women doesn’t mean ignoring men’s issues.

Promoting awareness to men’s issues is not against women’s interests.

When someone is promoting progress, let’s not jump to “there are bigger problems elsewhere”

If you want to promote change via debate, being aggressive is the worst strategy. Why not say “hey, I hear your argument for women, and on this note I’d also like to raise this other related subject about men’s issues.”

That’s a win win conversation

The time dilation on the surface of the moon would cause a clock to be 20 milliseconds ahead of a clock on earth after one year

it might be easier just to synchronize the space station clock with earth once a month, but I guess NASA would go for nanosecond precision if they could

That may make sense if you’re on the surface of the moon, but that’s not the case. The moon time zone is for the moon orbiting space station proposed by NASA

If a year is how long it takes to go around the sun then a Moon year is the same as Earth’s