Been trying to buy a house because my rent is going up(and it will continue to do so) and a mortgage would be around the same as what my rent will become in a few years anyway so I figure I might as well build equity and have a house for my family.

Thing is the current housing market is nuts. Houses are put on sale with strict deadlines of “accepting all offers due 12pm 5 days from now” creating a false sense of urgency and to top is off the process is super opaque. You dont know what other people are offering so unlike an actual auction you cant start low and hopefully get a good value. Nope it’s a black box and the asking price isnt of any help because that was just an advertising tactic to get more people to look at the house.

So you have to do research based on past history of other homes sold in the area of the same type recently and then place a competitive bid based on that. Of course everyone else is also doing that so you have to make your bid “competitive” and give a little more. How much more is hard to say and you only really get the one bid. So 12 pm comes along and the anticipation in your stomach is insane because this could be it you could be a homeowner and you did put in a competitive bid, and then sometime between immediately and just before bed you get a message saying they went with another offer.

ITS SO DAMN FRUSTRATING! Houses that I bid $30,000 over asking price and someone still swooped in and bid even more. And of course since the process is a black box you dont get told what bid beat you out or what the other bids were(dont want the 2nd place bid to decrease their bid in the event the 1st place falls through). You’ll find out eventual final sale price a few months from now when everything finishes closing. I imagine the issue is other people got frustrated with the game over the last few months and now if they see a house thats ok they go all in with their max offer instead of a smart offer.

Oh and the market is limited, but somehow out of sheer coincidence after one round of sales is done the realtors manage to find another round of homes to put on the market. I’m convinced the realtors are limiting the supply on purpose and letting homes trickle in because the ACT NOW PUT IN THE BEST OFFER OVER ASKING tactic probably doesnt work as well if there are more than a handful of homes for sale at a time.

Its so frustrating I just want a house to live in and raise my soon to be born child, and Im willing to pay you what you’re asking for it! The worst part is the housing market in my area shot up a lot over the years. So these people playing bid wars are making 100k profit AT LEAST for a house they bought just 5 years ago! And then theres the old people who bought the house for pretty much nothing 30+ years ago

Sorry for my long wall of text rant

  • @Linuturk
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    10 months ago

    For a whole new level of frustration, try to research any HOA before you buy a house. Their rules aren’t typically disclosed until after you buy the house put in your offer and enter escrow.

    • @UsernameLost@lemmy.ml
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      1810 months ago

      The seller is required to provide a package with all HOA bylaws within 5 days of accepting an offer, at least in my state. If you disagree with anything in the HOA rules (or any other reason as long as the HOA is cited as the reason), you can back out of the sale with no earnest money forfeited.

      • @Linuturk
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        910 months ago

        Yeah I miss remembered my experience. I still think an offer and escrow is too far in the process before the rules are disclosed.

        • @UsernameLost@lemmy.ml
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          510 months ago

          I agree. Our HOA has a website with unofficial copies of the bylaws. After reading those and driving around the neighborhood, it was pretty obvious that they didn’t enforce much of it outside of keeping trash off the lawn. Talked to a few people that lived in the neighborhood to confirm, and it’s reasonable enough as far as HOAs go. Still not my preference, but it’ll do for 10-15 years

    • @HumbleFlamingo@beehaw.org
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      410 months ago

      I get everyone hates HOAs, but this is flat wrong. HOA rules are material facts about the property, they must be disclosed before buying. They will be disclosed in escrow, if not earlier. When they are disclosed, read them over and bail if you don’t like them or ask for a price reduction.

      • @Linuturk
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        610 months ago

        You are correct. What I don’t like is you have to put in an offer on a house and get that far before you see the rules.